Instead of engaging in a spelling bee during oral sex, take some advice from me — a seasoned lesbian with over two decades of experience both receiving and giving oral sex. Communication during oral sex is about more than just moans and heavy breathing though that counts, too! You want to maximize your partner's sexual pleasure, and that means communicating with her before, during, and even after the act. Where does she enjoy being touched? Which motion feels good for her? By keeping the communication open, having no assumptions and learning to figure out what pleases each person, you should be able to give incredible head.
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Whether you use the technical term fellatio or call it a blowjob, going down, giving head, or something else, performing fellatio is an act that requires a lot of trust and a little bit of knowledge. If you believe everything you hear, you might think that guys love this so much technique and intent don't matter. Think again. In reality, there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference. We mostly think of fellatio as being one person licking or sucking a partner's penis. Keep in mind that while most men have penises, not all do.
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Just like the rest of your sex routine, oral benefits from mixing it up. For those with vulvas, there are typically two kinds of toys that mimic the pleasure of oral sex: suction vibrators that feel like suction and use waves and vibration for ultra-intense oral feeling and faux-tongue-like toys that have rubber or silicone nubbins that mimic the more superficial feeling of a literal tongue on your vulva. For faux-tongue-mimicry, we like the Lelo Ora 3, which has a thin layer of silicone stretched over a drum with a tongue-like nubbin that moves in circles and different patterns, that along with vibration, can feel very real. You can also use these toys with a partner the next time your tongue gets tired, or show your partner how you like to be pleasured. Likewise for those with male partners, a blowjob sleeve can be a great way to reacquaint themselves with just how pleasurable oral can really be.
First step: Stop thinking of it as a job. Done correctly, oral sex can be satisfying for both of you — so long as you follow this sage advice. Everybody wins!